Relationship or Trap ? You decide.

Hey there! After many years of procrastination, this post finally makes it to the blog.Yayy ! I beat you there my dear procrastination monkey and for another some time forget me.Before I start here's a note to my friends, don't be mad at me if you find your stories here. But also, what do you think ? I listen to them only to give you relationship advises ? Nah .

So yes, I'm referring to "my special someone with whom I'll share my life", relationships .We all know there are only two kinds of relationships: 1. The famous healthy ones and 2. The very famous unhealthy ones. For me unhealthy relationships are just like a trap. A trap that you build around yourself and refuse to get out. These are the ones where you should consider quitting rather than holding on just like that for days and months. Here are three relationships that you do not do. 

1. Sixty Nine Years Of One Side Love !

The ones that take a life time to forget and move on. The ones where the other person totally understands how much you love them but she/he can't help it, they don't love you back as you do. The least they want from you is NO PHONE CALLS. The highest they think of you is NEVER.
Seriously, why don't you properly listen to all the relationship advises that you take ? Do you even know how frustrating it is to tell the same thing i,e move on,for the one hundred and twentieth time ? Do you know that we know that you are not going to listen to what we say anyway ? Do you know that we copy and paste the same messages from the previous conversation in order to save time and energy ? :-D :-D
But bruh ! you gotta realize something. It is absolutely rubbish to expect the other person to be in the same place that you are in and feel the same way that you do. Also  Fraand zone falls in the same category except that you may get some side hugs. You don't deserve them my fraand , you deserve hugs that will make you breathless :-D and probably a kiss on the forehead too. I got fraand zoned and she/he kissed me on my forehead, SAID NOBODY EVER. SO MOVE ON !

2. The Third Parent -_- 

Yes you heard that right, the third parent type. The ones with a ton of expectations.These are the ones where the other person wants to know everything about you, want you to text them every single time they expect you to, want to take your life's decisions, want to know what you had for lunch, want to have your friends contacts on their speed dial because what if you don't lift their call when you're with them ? Want to know the amount of oxygen you breathe along with other gasses. :-p Yes, I do know this is called exaggeration but I wanted to describe the limits they can cross to keep track of your daily routine. Exactly like a Parent. Even parents give you space sometimes Bruh, although sometimes means once in every fifty five years. Yes, again Exaggerated ! Yes I study Engineering.
But hey, you don't need another parent, do you? You don't want to suffocate in the name of love. So what do you do ? QUIT OR THROW AWAY YOU'RE PHONE IN TRASH. I think the former is better . ;-)

3.The Abusive Kind.


I have seen a few of my friends bearing physical and verbal abuse in relationships silently for years. (All girls sadly:-/ :-/ ) Talk to your parents guys, tell them you're afraid that the other person is capable of causing harm to you and that is the reason you're trapped in these relationships.Initially they're gonna question you real bad but you need them guys, you need your parents to resolve these issues. I know it requires so many guts, a lot. Trust me, it worked for my friend. She told her parents about the abuse and filed a police complaint against the guy. Also , I have seen some bearing verbal abuse and do not feel offended. They do not understand that they do not deserve it and the other person has zero rights to abuse you verbally just because you are together. LOVE AND RESPECT SHOULD CO-EXIST . I don't understand why they still hold on and fail to understand a normal  concept called SELF-RESPECT. Here you quit. You Just Quit.

So these are the three kinds that I think one should consider quitting. Why do I think I'm qualified to tell you to quit? Because I have spent forty eight years in giving relationship advises.Do I regret doing them? No I don't.But let me think . ..
Damn! I could have easily watched the Genius T.V series in one go instead of doing them. Now I regret. OK BYE!







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